I remember thinking as a teenager “I can’t wait to grow up there won’t be any more drama from these girls”. But now I’m realizing there is this new thing called “mom shaming”. The drama never really stops…
Where Is Mom Shaming Coming From?
It’s coming from other moms who are trying to validate their own way of doing things by ripping apart another woman. The main reasons why moms shame is because they are bored, angry, jealous, insecure, or wanting attention themselves. Social media plays a huge role in this, it’s much easier to snap photos of moms doing everyday things and then posting it on social media with a criticism.
“Taking and posting photos of women during times when they are mothering in order to shame them publicly is cowardly and quite telling of the person who takes the photo and those who choose to post comments online about the mother and her child,” reported Parenting Magazine.
Imagine raising a family the best to your ability and have other people judging you for doing what you know best. It is real, and most mothers struggle with it. These opinions usually start once a woman becomes pregnant.
“The stakes for parents these days are higher than ever,” according to WebMD. “We live in an age of high expectations that everything is a Kodak, or nowadays a Facebook, moment… It’s very easy for mothers of newborns out of love and concern to feel traumatized quickly over all sorts of things.”
Shaming moms who HAVE to go to work every day.
Shaming moms who choose to stay home with their children.
Shaming moms for being “over” protective.
Shaming moms who go out for a girls night, and need some fun.
Shaming moms who get all dolled up every single day just to help make themselves feel better.
Shaming moms who encourage their children to read instead of watch TV.
Shaming moms who do not allow screen time at all because the radiation is bad.
Shaming moms who buy their child too many gifts.
Shaming moms who choose to formula feed instead of breastfeeding.
Shaming moms who give their children chocolate before they are 1 year old.
Shaming moms who feed their children too much healthy food.
Shaming moms who use cloth diapers instead of throwing away diapers.
Shaming moms for cosleeping.
Shaming moms who have always made their child sleep in their own crib.
Shaming moms who let child nap whenever they feel like it instead of putting them on a schedule.
Shaming moms who do not feel like doing the dishes one night because they are too tired.
Shaming moms who have tattoos and piercings.
Shaming moms who always work out every single day,
Shaming moms who eat whatever they want and have gained weight.
Shaming moms who are teaching their kids manners “too early”.
The list goes on…
We are ALWAYS being shamed for something!
Mom-shaming is a REAL issue!
We are ALL a bunch of ladies that are trying to figure out how to be perfect at this whole mom thing. None of us fit the perfect size model, we got no instruction manual on what to do, and can I tell you something else? We are all doing a pretty damn good job because being a mom is hard work! I know for a fact there are a million other things you need to do before you get so bored you want to start mom shaming.
We should be all about empowering each other, spreading positivity, and cheering each other on. We need to stick together and become a team instead of picking each other apart. We might not always agree with each other, but we are all doing what we think is best for our families.
Have you ever had your parenting decisions—big or small—questioned or criticized? Please share your experiences in the comment section.
This post may or may not contain affiliate links. If you choose to purchase any of the products I have recommended, I may or may not receive a small commission at no cost to you. For more information, please see my disclosures.